Hug first, ask questions later


I entered the Y in a rush, three kids close behind as we made our way down the crowded corridor, trying to get one to swimming and the other to gymnastics before classes started.

As we rounded a corner, Jilly stopped dead in her tracks, squeaked “My Friend!” and started to wave to a little girl standing next her mother. The little girl’s face lit up and she waved back. All of a sudden, Jilly did her standard greeting: she walked up to the girl without hesitation, threw her arms around her, and gave her a big hug.

The mother looked at me, smiling, and said, “OH! The girls know each other?!?”

“Yes, I guess they do!” I said uncertainly. “Jilly, how do you know each other?”

“The party. . . you know!”

“Oh. . .yes. . the. . .party?” I looked at the other mother to see if she could fill in the blanks.

“Was she at Joe Josephson’s birthday party?” the other confused mother asked me.

No. . .Jilly and I both nodded together.

“Does she go to Town-Other-Than-Our-Own Elementary School? Maybe they met there?”

“No. . .well. . .um. . .maybe it’ll come to us soon. We’ll keep thinking about it!” I turned, kind of embarrassed that my daughter had mistakenly hugged a total stranger.

As we continued down the hall, I leaned down toward Jilly and asked in a low voice, “Honey, what party are you talking about?”

“Mooooommmm. . .the party we went to at that house. Where I played on the swings with that girl. . .”

And, then it hit me: the girl she played with at a friend’s holiday party. After that party, she had bounced to the car, beaming, and said, “I made a friend!” “What’s her name?” “I don’t know”. (Ahhh, to be six and have friends without names.)

I told the kids to stand still and ran back to the mom: “the girls met at Terrie’s party!”, I said as if I solved some great mystery. (I also thought, “yes! my daughter is not some crazy rogue hugger!”).

A little while later, as both our girls took gymnastics together, we talked about how funny those moments of confusion had been, as we tried to figure out how two friends knew each other.

And I wondered how different adults would be toward each other if we all hugged first, asked questions later.

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Comments

  1. That is a great picture..

    To be 6 again! Life would be a lot less complicted.

  2. That is a great picture..

    To be 6 again! Life would be a lot less complicted.

  3. Excellent point. Gorgeous photo.

  4. Excellent point. Gorgeous photo.

  5. We are an Argentinian family visiting Boston from June 2010 untill September 2010. We have four kids: Francisca 9, Benjamin 7, Bautista 5 and Jacinta 2. We really appreciate if you could give us some advide on how we can do on summer with our kids at Boston. We want to learn english interacting with other people and also want to have a family experiencie doing this trip.

    Thank you very much, regards,

    GUILLERMO

  6. We are an Argentinian family visiting Boston from June 2010 untill September 2010. We have four kids: Francisca 9, Benjamin 7, Bautista 5 and Jacinta 2. We really appreciate if you could give us some advide on how we can do on summer with our kids at Boston. We want to learn english interacting with other people and also want to have a family experiencie doing this trip.

    Thank you very much, regards,

    GUILLERMO

  7. Boston Mamas says:

    More hugs, less questions would probably lead to a much happier world. 🙂

  8. Boston Mamas says:

    More hugs, less questions would probably lead to a much happier world. 🙂

  9. log home furniture says:

    So sweet. Wish all adults were like kids.

  10. log home furniture says:

    So sweet. Wish all adults were like kids.

  11. I have to fight the urge to pretty much hug everyone. LOL, hilarious story. 🙂

  12. I have to fight the urge to pretty much hug everyone. LOL, hilarious story. 🙂

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